days weeks that it seems that I’m swimming in a sea of stress. And I don’t know if it’s a sign of maturity that these days, I seldom freak out, but I go on a —“let’s fix this mode”. I become very quiet and concentrated, and focused. Before, it was like a lottery what kind of reaction I would have to stressful situations. It could be shouting. It could be a tantrum. It could be me walking out. It could be me crying.
Maybe since the stressful weeks have been coming a-plenty these days, maybe my body and my mind have learned or figured out its own coping mechanism. I know that I’m a worrier, and I’m not shy in reading self-help books because I acknowledge that I may need help, and I have read books about worrying and stress, I distinctly remember–How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie and Grow Rich with Peace of Mind by Napoleon Hill. What can I say? I like them classic.
I know that we have the Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff by Richard Charlson in my house, but I’ve read to read it. (Note to self: I really should)
There’s also a treasure trove of articles about dealing with worry and stress online. Here’s an article that I found really helpful about healthy ways to deal with worrying.
The most helpful thing I’ve read and applied is this.I ask myself : “what’s the worst result of whatever it is that I’m worrying about?” I think about it, and I feel all the stress and feel all the awful feelings. Then I ask myself : “Am I still alive in that situation?” And if the answer is yes, I immediately feel that it’s not so bad anymore, and I can deal with it.
Other things are the usual. They will tell you to work it off (exercise), meditate, or do things that relax you. Those really work, too!
Today, a crisis happened that I had to find a way to fix or else it would mean potentially losing a 5 figure deal. I fixed it. I did everything that’s mentioned above.
Oh wait, and another thing that I do? After I finish fixing a stressful thing, I dance. It makes me feel good, and it releases all the pent-up energy.
And usually, I dance to this:
How about you? What are your coping mechanisms for stress?